Campaign Story

Our Infertility Journey:

My name is Sebastiana Bedore and my husband is Gregg Bedore and this is our story. We got married September 2018 and we immediately began trying to have a family we tried for a year but we continuously failed, we took tests after tests and we were left with nothing but negative outcomes. Eventually we decided to seek help so we began our journey with a reproductive specialist in NY, he started me with IUI (intrauterine insemination) after 5 failed attempts we moved on to IVF (invitro fertilization) I had 5 miscarriages all under 5 weeks in the length of 3 years. I was diagnosed with a Unicornuate Uterus, Adenomyosis and a blood clotting disorder which has led me to my battle with infertility. Gregg and I were always left with heartbreak after heartbreak but we didn’t give up, we had hope. We made a decision to move to another state which scared us but we took the leap of fate and we bought a house, we began renovations we even took vacations, night outs anything to clear our minds from fertility. We finally decided to start trying again so I did my research and found a very highly recommended and great reviews at RMA of NJ. We made our first consultation appointment, we had so much faith that RMA could help our dream come true. I had my first egg retrieval which gave us three embryos that we were so happy with, during the wait for our IVF transfer I underwent many procedures and tests. Once I was cleared to have my IVF transfer I went in March 2025 and a week and a half later I tested positive on my pregnancy test. My heart was slamming out of my chest, I had surprised Gregg and we kept it a secret for a little while because we were so scared due to our past losses. As my pregnancy progressed everything was going so well. My doctors appointments were great, we heard our baby’s heartbeat and it made our hearts melt at every beat his heart gave. At 20 weeks we had our first anatomy scan and boy were we petrified but we left the office smiling because our baby boy was growing healthy and well, YES ITS A BOY!…. in a blink of an eye I was 26 weeks pregnant his movements were increasing and my conversations with him grew into a mother and son bond. We picked out his name, his name is Luca Bjorn. Two days before my first ever baby shower on the night of September 1st, 2025 I started having some abdominal pain which began to worsen with time so we decided to head over to the hospital to make sure everything was okay, it all happened so fast I was admitted and began having contractions I was told I had to try and have natural birth and with the failed attempt of natural birth and four hours of painful agony I demanded to have a C-section to save our baby. I couldn’t have any pain medication or an epidural due to the blood thinners I had been on during my pregnancy. I was then given a C-Section under general anesthesia. We didn’t get to hear our baby’s cry, Gregg didn’t get to cut the umbilical cord but that was okay as long as our baby was okay.

Luca was rushed into the NICU with my husband by his side, for the very first time he saw our son stretching his hands and feet. the doctor told him that our son has severe swelling on his head but they would do their best to care for him. He then underwent his first brain scan and several blood transfusions with consistent monitoring. After his first initial brain scan we were told he was diagnosed with a grade one brain bleed which is the least severe out of four. Our hearts were shattered but we were told there was hope as it would be treatable, brain bleeds are rated from grade 1-4 with one being the least severe and four being terminal, We hoped and prayed for the best that Luca could fight through this. Thereafter his second brain scan we were told by the doctor they misread the first brain scan being a grade one but Luca actually had a grade three brain bleed and that his prognosis was not good. The next day we got news that no parent ever wants to hear we were told Luca’s brain bleed progressed to a grade four and that his organs were failing and he was struggling to survive and that he did not have much longer to live. Our unexpected trauma was soon to come, We took many trips to the NICU and we talked to Luca and we cried our hearts out hovering over his incubator while holding his hands and his tiny feet. Darkness filled our lives in the moments that lead to our Luca passing we held him close. We got to kiss him while we cried and begged for him not to leave us. In a blink of an eye we lost our baby boy. We had so much hope and now we have nothing but emptiness, painful memories, clothing and accessories he never got to use and photos the hospital gave us. Now the teddy bear that laid with him in his pictures sleeps with us every night. We were left with a broken heart and empty arms.

The following day the Doctor who performed my C-section came to our room and gave her condolences for the loss of our son, shortly after she informed me that due to the severity of the C-section and the outcome of the surgery that we should consider surrogacy because my life would be at risk to conceive in the future and that i would no longer be able to carry another child. Although, with the years of undergoing IVF treatments, medications and procedures we have depleted our savings. Our story screams pain & anyone who has gone through the pain of grief and the pain of infertility would understand. One thing we hope for during the surrogacy journey is to fulfill our dreams of becoming parents and our fur kitty would become a big sister with also to be able to honor Luca with our next child. Your kindness and support during our surrogacy journey truly means the world to us. Thank You.